Sunday 14 February 2010

Music that connects us

"Whenever there is great art, there is a piece of heaven" - Surendra Shrestra, tabla player from Nepal

For the past four years a small film crew has been traveling the world with recording equipment and cameras in search of inspiration.

The film below is an example of their output - more than 35 musicians from at least four continents harmonising in an inspiring virtual global band, epitomising the connection of diverse and disparate humanity through music.

South Africans featured include Vusi Mahlasela from Mamelodi, Sinamuva and Bhekani Memela choirs from Umlazi, and Pokei Klaas from Gugulethu on upright bass.

Want to hear more? Visit to order the CD+DVD set with ten tracks, and learn more about their upcoming movie.

Thursday 11 February 2010

Eldership: Not just a scrapheap

Facing up to getting old often brings feelings of shrinking, ending, being over the hill. Finding energy flagging, body sagging, milestones behind rather than in front leaves the go-go-go energy in us freaking out.

In many cultures, being “old” is enough to have you literally or metaphorically slung on the scrap heap.
Yet there is no substitute for experience.

Ability to see the big picture of life requires us to have lived for many decades. Appreciating that I am a human being rather than insisting on doing for my identity takes time to sink in. And there is a new power available to us just when our youthful strength starts to fade: elders can get results by influence rather than by control. Specially for men accustomed to positions of overt leadership in the world, discovering the wisdom of eldership offers a whole new lease on life as a generous contributor who uses subtlety to shape teams and events rather than control them.

Being closer to the grave than the cradle brings new perspectives and new possibilities. To name a few:
  • Experience the joy of sharing wisdom and experience, knowing there is no need to get anything in return
  • Enjoy sex without concern about pregnancy
  • The self confidence that comes from knowng you're never going to be perfect and that you are quite OK just as you are
  • Free time that comes when active parenting is complete

I challenge you to create your positive vision for eldership

And if you are still stuck on the negatives of gettng closer to the grave than the cradle, I suggest reading Robert A Johnson's book, Living Your Unlived Life – Coping with unrealised dreams and fulfilling your purpose in the second half of life. I find his insights and recommended activities enormously helpful in my own bumpy road to elderhood.

If you happen to live in Australia, check out The Eldership Project programme Finding Your Wisdom or otherwise watch Allan Rudner on Elderhood.